Hello, I’m Ginger.

I’m a Wife, Mama, Musician, Dreamer, Hippie, RV Traveler, Reader, Beach Lover, Minimalist, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Survivor, and a Believer, and I am always up for an adventure.

  • The days are long, but the years are short.

    I know if you’re a parent, you have lived and breathed these words! I say this as my “baby” just turned four, and has just as quickly let me know that he wants a big boy haircut. So, soon I will be tearfully saying goodbye to those golden baby curls! Pray for me.

    As moms, we know that days filled with whining and messes and hitting siblings (or us, ask me how I know this happens), and constantly looking for semi-healthy snacks, and missing shoes, and… all of the things that fill our days with littles, sometimes makes us feel like bedtime is so far away! But we love our little crazy people with all our hearts and know that we are to cherish this time, because before we know it, they’re old enough to tell us how they want to style their own hair. Lord help us.

    But even on the days that feel very long, sometimes I get to bedtime and wonder where on Earth my day went. I barely managed to keep everyone fed and “mostly” clean, let alone get anything productive checked off my very long todo list. I tend to be a planner, but I also require the flexibility to fly by the seat of my pants. So I am constantly searching for that balance in my days. Housekeeping routines, meal planning, daily schedule, reading goals, outside hours goals… you get it. I need that structure to get anything done, but how do we actually do it all while enjoying ourselves and our families?

    Have you ever gotten hit with the same idea from multiple places at once? It’s kind of like when you get a new car, you start noticing that lots of other people on your route have one, too. Over the last week or so, I’ve gotten the same theme repeated to me multiple times from a Hallmark movie, a podcast, and a blog post. I figure it’s worth sharing, so here it goes. We have to find systems that make things easier for us, so we have time to do the things that matter (spending time with family, making time for friends, and enjoying nature are some of my top ones, but you get to pick your own goal here).

    The Hallmark movie I watched was called The 27 Hour Day, and the main character was a woman who was constantly busy, had no work/life balance, and had made it her life’s work to help people be more efficient with time-saving hacks for everything. She did this to make more time to be more productive, but in the end discovers that making time for other things might be a better plan. The Lazy Genius helps systemize things, being “a genius about what matters and lazy about what doesn’t”. Similarly, the FLYLady gives housekeeping missions in small, doable chunks. She says we can make a huge dent in just 15 minutes. She also says on the weekends to rush through the morning routine, throw something in the crockpot, and go enjoy our families. I absolutely love this and have been doing it as much as possible!

    I think we could all benefit from finding systems that work for us, especially those that purposefully include putting down that checklist and enjoying ourselves and our families.

    I’ve shared a few of my favorites, and I’d love to hear yours! Please comment or message me if you have a great life hack that frees up your days for fun, and I’ll share it on my IG stories. 🫶

    These are a few of my favorite things…

    The Best Chili

    Playing in the leaves.

    Mother Bears Cauldron of Soap

    Pumpkin patch visits.

    Halloween!


  • You are Enough.

    Man, these past couple of weeks have been hard. As I sit here writing this, a few things are coming to mind that I think are more pressing to talk about than my original ideas of autumn bucket lists and holiday planning. I am realizing that when I don’t prioritize doing the things that make me feel like the real “me”, I am not creative, I get more flustered when real life happens, and I don’t feel as accomplished or fulfilled, even if I’m going through the motions and continuing to check things off my never-ending lists. So, here it goes. What makes us feel like us, and how do we make sure we don’t lose sight of that amidst the other life stuff?

    Quiet Time. This morning I was able to get through my morning routine (I’ll probably write about routines another time because my new ones have truly been transformational), get through preschool drop off, and get to the gym, for the first time in two weeks. I didn’t choose to skip my workouts, but I had two sick kids, vehicle maintenance, extra appointments… you get it. “Life stuff” got in the way of my “me stuff”. And these past two weeks have been TOUGH. In fact, this was drafted last week, and I’m just now editing it to send. Whoops! Yep, it’s been a week. But today, it didn’t. And as I was swimming laps (I do my best thinking there), it occurred to me that this ritual of having my quiet time and taking care of myself this way, is one of the very best things I can do to feel like myself. I’m going to make sure I remember that, even when things inevitably get hectic again!

    Listen to Yourself. I also find that how I dress plays a huge part in feeling, or not feeling, myself. I have followed minimalist capsule wardrobe folks, fashion experts with seasonal planners, and various social media accounts for inspiration and guidance on how to minimize my clothes and maximize my style. It wasn’t until recently when I realized that I had been influenced by others enough. Anyone else hit that point with influencers? Enough, already! I can think for myself, or at least I used to be able to, right? Yeesh! A big one for me was how I dressed, so I’ll share my thoughts on that, but you can insert anything relevant to you here (home decor, hairstyles, makeup trends, shopping hacks)… ok, so I figured out what colors work best on me (and which ones of those I truly enjoy wearing most), I am now comfortable with which patterns, shapes, and combination of clothing pieces I prefer, and I have found out my favorite way to accessorize. Now I’m putting together outfits that are not only great for my current lifestyle, but I am also much more confident when I’m feeling like myself. It’s so simple, but somehow I had missed that in my pursuits of following what everyone else was doing. I’ve learned, I’ve tried new things, and now I’m simplifying the process of my daily wardrobe selection so much so that I don’t need to spend much more energy on it. It’s so freeing! Turn down the volume on what you’re bringing in. You’ll hear yourself better!

    Friend Time. Spending time with people we enjoy and who lift us up plays a huge factor in how we feel about ourselves. I got together with a mama friend for our babies’ birthdays, and this time we both had another baby to bring to the playdate! We sat and chatted, drank coffee, and just relaxed while our littles played (and her new little slept). It was such a sweet reminder that sometimes my “me time” needs to involve my people! We have our next play date on the books for my youngest’s birthday next month. I now know without a doubt that who we spend our time with definitely contributes to whether or not we feel like ourselves, and it’s so incredibly important to be aware of these feelings and plan our time accordingly.


    So, what makes me “me”? I’m a planner. I’m an adventurer. I’m a mom. I’m a wife. I’m a talker-outer. I’m a doer. I’m a dreamer. I’m an organizer. I’m a friend. I’m a reader. I’m a homemaker. I’m an errand runner. I’m an appointment setter. I’m a cook. I’m a van driver. I’m a lot of things these days. But I can’t be good at any of them if I lose sight of who I am. I am me, no matter how I spend my day, how I dress, or how much I get done, and I am enough. And so are you! So let’s wear the fun hat (if only just for school drop off), go to the gym (even if it’s just to sit in the massage chair in peace), and schedule mom dates (I mean playdates) with the people we enjoy most. Because honestly, if we’re not being true to ourselves in everything we do, what’s the point?

    I hope this helps you find some peace in your day, and maybe it even releases you from something that you’ve been holding onto that makes you feel like doing anything other than being you unapologetically.
    Because you are enough!

    These are a few of my favorite things…

    Lolo’s Playhouse

    Fall Hallmark Movies.

    You’re Always Enough by Emily Ley

    Fresh picked apples from our yard.

    Olive and June in SC – “A deep bordeaux for a mani with depth and sophistication.” (20% off offer linked)


  • Who Has Time for That?

    I’d argue, we all do! I know, that’s an unpopular opinion. We’re busy, right? But we all have the same hours in a day, and some of us are better at others at fitting all the good stuff in. Why? How? Here’s what I think. It’s about making space in your schedule for what matters most. Sometimes this means saying no to what doesn’t. Even if it’s good stuff, we can’t do everything. Trust me, I’ve tried! And I’m over it. How about you?

    One thing I think we all want to make time for, but rarely do, is hanging out with friends. I barely get to hang out with my husband without multitasking a chore or kid wrangling. How am I supposed to make time for friends? Well, it isn’t always easy, especially when they have grownup responsibilities, too. But I’ve found a few fun ways, so I figured I’d share to see if they can help you, too!

    Make people come to you. Yep! I sometimes worry that my house isn’t company ready, but you know what? If they’re really your people, they won’t care. They’re coming to see you, not your house. I promise you that they are not judging you or your house, and if they are, maybe say no to them next time. Harsh? Maybe. But it’s true.

    I just had a friend over to my place today, because her availability was right around nap time. My kids didn’t end up napping, but they were cozy and here with their own stuff, and it didn’t throw off our rhythms. I sliced up our recently picked apples, made a three ingredient apple dip that I absolutely love, put assorted crackers on a cute pumpkin plate, and a cranberry cinnamon goat cheese log on another. I set out room temperature bottles of water. It was yummy, it served its purpose, and it took me all of ten minutes to make it look pretty (enough). We had a lovely visit, complete with about 457 interruptions by both of my kiddos, and it was FINE. Make it happen, and make them come to you, even if it’s not picture perfect. And honestly, if they don’t want to make the time/effort to come to you sometimes, maybe invite someone else next time. Another harsh truth, but I stand behind that. A true friend will make an effort, and if you want to be a good friend to those that do, you may need to let go of the ones who don’t.

    Another thing I do each month is host a clothing swap. It serves multiple purposes for me, and I LOVE all of it so much! I started it a couple of years ago when I was first going through my closet and needed to replenish it with new pieces. I contacted a few friends who are relatively the same size, we met at a coffee shop, brought the clothes we weren’t using, and we swapped with each other! It has now morphed into a kid-friendly brunch at a new friend’s house, and there are a handful of us that are there for every single one. We drink coffee and mimosas, try on and swap clothes, laugh, eat yummy food, and build each other up. It’s such a positive and nurturing environment. Recently we added a fun extra piece, and are now doing themed brunches (next one is Thanksgiving themed)! We make sure to plan the next month before we leave, as it’s something we all look forward to adding to our calendars. I just love what it’s become, and it’s a joy to make sure one Saturday morning a month is available for this event.

    Another thing I’m doing is inviting friends to join me at the gym. No I’m not a personal trainer, by any means. And in all honesty I prefer to workout by myself (and I still do). BUT, it’s been super fun meeting up with a friend to chat and workout with (separately). Our gym has childcare and massage chairs, so it’s become a mom-time thing. We drop the kiddos off, meet up in the locker room, workout, chat while we get ready, and relax and chat more while we sit in the massage chairs! It’s so nice and encouraging to be lifted up on a regular basis in a place that otherwise might be a bit of a drag to drag myself to.

    And lastly, I use voice messages. Whether it’s facebook messenger or Marco Polo, I’m all about the voice/video messages! You can still listen to them whenever you can, like a text, but it just seems to be more life-giving than only sending and receiving texts. It’s not easy for me to make/take real time phone calls in this season of my life, but going back and forth with voice or video messages is a great substitute! I have most of my people doing it with me now, and I’ve heard many times that they enjoy the extra personal touch it offers, too! Do I still send a quick text now and again? Yes, and I think that’s a great option when you’re short on time and want to love on someone. It’s definitely the thought (and follow through) that counts – so make the time to connect, however it works best for you.


    A wise man in my life once said, “make time for friends now, because if you don’t, when you have the time you won’t have any friends.”


    These are a few of my favorite things:

    Apple Dip

    Marco Polo

    Creamy Lemony Chicken and Potato Soup

    Fall-Scented Cleaners (Includes promo code)

    The Lazy Genius (yep, still making the list)

    Fall Scented Target Candles.


  • Decide Once

    I mentioned the Lazy Genius in my last post, but for REAL you guys. She’s soooo good. I’ve been binge-listening to her podcasts, and now I’m super hooked. She’s got so many great ideas, but one in particular is really simplifying things for me. One of her philosophies is to “decide once”, and I’m leaning into that this week in a big way!

    Ok, so we talked about Soup Saturdays – this is an example of deciding once. The rest of our themed meal planning throughout the week fits this principle too, but this is the newest one – and the most festive! The recipes will change, and maybe even the time of day, but at least for this season, I’ve decided once that Saturdays I will be making soup. Done. No stress. No back and forth about what we’re having. It just is. Soup! Easy and fun, especially for fall. This week’s recipe for Pumpkin Chili was super yummy! I’ll link that recipe below.

    Another way I’ve decided once is in my weekly schedule. On Tuesdays, we don’t have school, so we will make any necessary appointments on this day whenever possible. It just makes sense. No need to over think it! On Thursdays, also not a school day, we will go do something super fun! It’s our field trip day, if you will. Last week we went to our local orchard, and it was so sweet and refreshing to just go have fun! No errands, no major chores, just a fun-filled day with the littles. I posted pics on my IG page, if you’d like to see my little men and all their cuteness checking out the apples and pumpkins.

    Now here’s a biggie. Gift-giving. I think this is something we either love or it makes us break out in hives. I am somewhere in between. If I know you, know what you’ll like, and have the budget for it, I LOVE giving gifts. If I don’t know what to get or am stressing about the dozens of people on the Christmas list, I start to panic. This year I’ve decided once that for kid’s birthdays, we are going to be gifting a craft. Yep. Every single kid. Doesn’t matter the age or gender, they’re gonna get some sort of art/craft gift. It’s fun, it can generally be purchased ahead of time if I find something awesome and want to stock up, and it’s a fairly consumable product that won’t clutter up my home or someone else’s. This is gold! I love it. If I feel like we need/want to do more, I’m adding a gift card for Dairy Queen or McDonald’s. Decided. Done. I can still completely customize it for each kid if I want to, but I also don’t have to, and can go into my “gift closet” of pre-bought crafts. This doesn’t actually exist right now since I just decided this last week, but it will happen. I used to have a drawer dedicated to random small gifts and another for gift bags, tissue paper, ribbons, and an assortment of cards. It’s such a wonderful way to be prepared and be able to easily love on our people, and I will be creating this space again soon. It’s magic. And I think so is deciding once for things like this! I have some ideas for Christmas gifts and friend’s birthdays, too, but I won’t spoil the surprise here.

    There are so many other ways this principle comes into play to simplify our lives… where/when do we get groceries? I added it into my schedule for a regular day/time now when it makes sense for our school pickups. No more, when’s the next available Walmart pickup? Crap. We’re out of… nope! I recently switched over to Instacart for my Aldi pickup (not sure why I wasn’t already doing this) and it’s SO great! And favorite brands of cleaning products, makeup, bath stuff… I am not one who loves to try lots of new things in these areas because I’m super sensitive to most of them. So instead of constantly getting frustrated with fails and wasted money, I went back to the basics and I just get my favorites on repeat. Oh, and I order them online and they get shipped to me. Even better!

    Here’s to deciding once, letting go of perfectionism, and making more room for what really matters. ❤️

    These are a few of my favorite things:

    Pumpkin Chili

    The Lazy Genius Way

    Instacart (this is a referral link)

    Grove (this is a referral link)

    Apples.


  • For Everything There is a Season

    I feel like there are two types of people. Some of you are stubborning clinging onto summer and cursing the cool winds of change blowing in. The rest of you, like me, are getting excited! Things are changing, fall is here, and that brings so many good things into our days! So if you’re the first one, you might not love this post. But who knows? Maybe a yummy soup recipe I plan to share will put at least a little bit more pep in your step. Either way, fall is here, and I am so excited that I had to start writing again after my long hiatus!

    Ok, so seasonal changes have become super important to me, and I’m not well-educated on the moon phases or the solstices or equinoxes, or anything like that. But I just get this overwhelming feeling of excitement when things are changing. It’s like we get a fresh start, four times a year. Isn’t that refreshing? I used to think that everything had to depend on the first of the year goals. Magically on January 1st (in the middle of winter), I’m supposed to be all inspired to make life-changing decisions? Um, no. In January I’m about to lose my ever-loving mind over all the snow and ice and coldness and all that a midwestern winter brings. By changing my mindset and allowing for a seasonal refresh instead, I am able to make smaller, more reasonable goals. I manage my things more easily with seasonal decluttering and closet clean outs, manage myself with seasonal hair cuts, makeup and skincare refreshes… you name it. If I can see something as a seasonal event, it seems so much more doable. Make sense?

    If you have followed me at all you know by now about my seasonal wardrobe switches, which are super fun and getting easier each time I do them! I’ve done a very intentional minimalist closest for a couple of years now, so I have my favorite seasonal touches sorted out. Fall means all the warm colors come back into my closet… bring on the orange, brown, wine, and mustard. It’s so much fun to look forward to my favorite things in these colors that I packed away last year! I’m getting better at finding my personal style, which I think today I decided could be described in one word “wildflower”. I know, it’s not a fashion word, or even an adjective. But it’s my word, and it reminds me to dress in a way that fits my unique style personality, and that’s ultimately all that matters! What? We get to make our own rules! Who knew?! Shoutout to The Lazy Genius for that genius advice. So yes, my closet is getting an overhaul again, as is my almost 4 year old’s and my 10 month old’s. It’s a lot more work with three wardrobes than it ever was with one. Yowza! But keeping it minimal really helps. With gifted clothes and hand-me-downs for the kiddos, I’m not always as good at a capsule wardrobe, but I do try my best. Because honestly they’re so much fun, and they make putting outfits together so much easier!

    A new shift I’ve decided to focus on this fall is with my cooking. I love to meal plan, having theme nights most nights of the week makes grocery shopping and feeding the family fun and simple! But I’ve never really focused on a seasonal switch as intentionally as I am this year. Don’t get me wrong, I have already purchased tons of apple, maple, pecan, cinnamon, and pumpkin flavors of everything, and am working on a trip to hit a Trader Joe’s sometime soon for allll the fall goodness there- none of this is new. But this year, I’ve added a bit of a fun twist. Instead of just making a handful of soups on repeat all season (who am I kidding I only make taco soup and chili!), I’m pushing myself to learn how to make a new soup once a week. On Saturdays, of course, because “Soup Saturday” just makes sense. If you follow me on social media, I’ll be posting about this new adventure using #smithsoupsaturday. Also, if you have an amazing soup recipe you think I should try, please message me or comment! I’d love to get your suggestions.

    On another note, an old friend recently asked if I’d be on his podcast to “share my stuff”. I said yes. And then I panicked! What exactly is my stuff? I struggle with perfectionism, and wanting to follow the right pattern for a good blogger, or social media account, that people will actually enjoy and get inspired by. But honestly, I think I finally decided that I don’t give a crap about all that. I get excited in bursts. I change my mind often. If I love you, I love you so hard. If I love a thing I try, I also love it so hard. It’s just who I am. My favorite thing to do is something I haven’t done before. My favorite place to visit? You guessed it. Somewhere I’ve never been. I love to be happy, I love to have fun, and I love to share all of that with my people. I am always up for an adventure, so if you’re up for it, buckle up and I’ll bring you along for the ride. When I remember. And when I feel like it. ❤️

    Here are a few of my favorite things (right now) :

    The Lazy Genius Podcast

    The Simplified Podcast

    Hearty Tortillini Soup

    The Fly Lady

    Chickens.


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